At the weekend I hit the grand old age of 50! Me! 50!
I’m sure everyone who hits this milestone must stop to take stock – but for myself I feel it does have a special significance.
When I was born it was very rare for a child with a single ventricle condition to survive to adulthood, in fact my parents were told I would be doing well if I reached the age of 5. At the age of 9 I had my first open heart surgery (the Glenn), and, again, my parents were told that my condition was more complicated than envisaged, and so we would all just have to see how it goes. As the years progressed I had a thrombosis and a TIA that both required inpatient treatment, and then I had my second open heart surgery, – the Fontan – at the age of 22.
Since then I have married and had 2 children. My wonderful and special family, who I love so much, and who make me proud every day.
Obviously my condition has always impacted on my physical abilities, but I don’t think I have particularly been prevented from living the life I wanted to.
There was the time the school careers advisor told me I couldn’t work with children because I might end up having to deal with ‘disabled ones’! Ha! Little did he know what the future held, nor how I was going to cope with it!
I must admit there have been times, particularly when I had the children, and the Consultants had very little research to go on, I have felt my life is a bit of an experiment, or maybe I should just look at it as trying to be a pioneer – obviously there are others who would simply say I’m stubborn and like to get my own way! Lol!
Someone told me that 50 is the new 40 – well, when I hit 40 my Cardiologists told me they weren’t sure how my health would progress from there on, as, again, there was little research to go. I had a problem with AF and a rapid downturn in health at one point, but the wonderful team at the ACHD unit at QE Hospital, Birmingham popped a pacemaker in me, changed my drugs and set me up to continue with my life once more.
At 50, I really am now just taking it as it comes. I’m continually taking the advice of the doctors to try and stay as healthy as possible, but I really do appreciate that I am very lucky to be this healthy, at this age, and, whilst I don’t wish to blow my own trumpet, I am quite proud to be part of the generation leading the march of the single ventricles!
Happy birthday Donna! 50 is an amazing milestone especially for a lady with a single ventricle heart condition! I love how you always seem to live life to the full and you give me so much hope for the future. I suspect it can’t be easy being a pioneer but I think you are amazing and I am sure your family do too! Hope you had a wonderful birthday and here’s to many more years of you being fabulous xx
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Thank you Louise. I had a lovely birthday.
Like everyone sometimes I feel about 20 & other times 90! Lol!
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You are very inspiring and so wonderful to share your story. Happy birthday and wishing you many more! I have a single ventricle son who just turned 1 at the end of October. His NICU suite mate’s Mom posted your story. I think it warms our heart and also encourages us in our fight for our children who have CHD/ SV. medically there are more and more babies/children surviving with this condition but it’s a painful struggle to for parents and family. To watch your child go through and worry about the future is so hard while you sit in a hospital with tubes coming from everywhere. So it’s nice to read about such success as yours.
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Thank you – I’m so glad it helps xx
My children have their own medical issues, so I can completely empathise with the difficulty and emotions of sitting next to your child’s hospital bed. I guess I am in the unique position of being both a patient & a parent – I can tell you it is way harder to be the parent!
Wishing your family all the best, and keep in touch. I would love to hear how he doing. Xxx
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What a wonderful testament to the miracles of our health system – you have beaten all the odds and not only are a soldier, trooping on, but you also look pretty damn fab for fifty! Many happy returns x Thanks for joining in with #coolmumclub
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Thank you! It must be all the drugs lol! And yes, our NHS is amazing x
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Congratulations on defying all those negative expectations and happy birthday, my fellow scorpion twin. I hit 50on 19th…. It’s a great and liberating age to be
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Isn’t it just?
Happy Birthday to you too xx
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Congratulations and a belated Happy Birthday x
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Congratulations and welcome to the club it really is fabulous isn’t it? I turned 50 this year also and so far so good. You have clearly defied all the odds and proved many wrong and that is an achievement to be proud of. #coolmumclub
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Thank you xx & congratulations on your 50th too x
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